Your Teen Just Stated Dating. What Do You Do? Talk and Listen to Your Child.
My teenage kid goes on a first date! Oh, no! If this is your reaction, then you have come to the right place. We know you know a lot about dating, but a little bit of advice on the matter will do you good, you will see.
Maybe you remember coming home crying because your date turned out to be too aggressive, or made a mean remark about your outfit. But not all your dates turned out that way. Some dates were thrilling, with compliments and fun from beginning to end. So it’s not all bad news.
Teen dating cannot be avoided, so make the best out of it for your teenage kid and for you, as well. After all, it is your job, too, to make them feel included in their group.
The atmosphere you and your spouse promote at home has much influence on your child. Teen dating will also been influenced by the principles and values one learns from their family. Children often learn from imitation, and parents are the closest examples how grown ups can act in certain situations. The social skills that children learn at home will also prove useful (or not so useful) during teen dating. If they see parents respecting one another, with care and understanding, they will also be able to behave like that later in life.
Approach teen dating with confidence. Giving supportive guidance without being intrusive and keeping them safe are your primary goals. Here are a few ideas to get your teen started in the dating scene.
Encourage double dates or group activities for starters. This makes it easier for your child to get into the swing of teen dating. A double date at the county fair allows both girls and boys to be more relaxed with one another and just have fun. Both boys and girls have someone of their own gender to chat with if self-conscious or nervous feelings surface. A group of boys and girls going bowling or to the skating rink is another good choice. It will help them build confidence in teen dating.
It is not working if you cannot help being intrusive. Let them have their privacy and don’t pester them with all kinds of advices and hard words. It is easier for them to gain confidence on their own than without you being on their shoulder all the time. Accept that they will not be talkative anytime you want to, but they will turn to you when needed.
When the opportunity arises, have a frank talk with your child about some of the down sides of teen dating, and help them establish limits. If they find themselves in a situation where alcohol or drugs are present, let them know these components lead to being taken advantage of or being arrested. Let them know these situations will come up and that they can feel free to call you any time for a ride home if they feel uncomfortable. Be sure to emphasize that they’ll not be punished.
Put your best foot forward in guiding your teen, and chances are their teen dating experiences will be happy ones.
